'I questioned her moral choice to pick fabric over a baby': Entitled sister makes outrageous threats after sibling would not loan her a wedding dress

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Isabella Penn
Oct 20, 2023 6:00 PM EDT

Let's set the record straight: we, along with the rest of Reddit, are totally Team OP. Let's get into it.

So, the story starts out with the OP's Karen of a stepsister mortifying her at a family dinner. She drops the bombshell that she's expecting, and then, in an attempt at a toast, she calls out her sister for being "bigger in size and heart." Not cool. And if that wasn't enough, the stepsister then thanks the OP for letting her borrow her wedding dress (because, again, she's a size bigger, and our villain is excepting) – a dress the OP hasn't even had the chance to wear herself, we should mention. It's a double whammy that brings our OP to tears. One, she's fuming about her stepsister stealing her dress, and two, she's hurt by the weight comment in front of the whole fam.

But wait, there's more insanity. The stepsister took it up a notch and started making threats against her unborn child, all because the OP said no to the dress loan. Yeah, you read that right. Now, the OP's actually considering handing over the dress just to shut her stepsister down and keep the peace for the sake of her future niece or nephew. So our OP decided to take to Reddit for some advice, and Redditors did not hold back. Keep scrolling to get the full scoop. 

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    Font - Posted by u/No-Yogurtcloset-3187 1 day ago AITA For Not Giving Into My Sisters "Simple Request" At The Cost Of My Niece/Nephew?
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    Font - Throw away acc. This is too big of a situation that I don't feel okay to put on my actual reddit account. I really know how else to say this so I will just come right out with it...
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    Font - Almost 2 months ago, my younger sister (23 aka 'Lucy' for this) & her fiance held a big dinner event with all of our family, his family, our mutual friends, their friends, & every soul she knew because they had some big news they wanted to tell everyone. They found out a few weeks prior that they are expecting. Of course we were all very very excited for them. As soon as
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    Font - everything settled down, Lucy then stood up & made a toast to me. She said she was thankful for having a bigger in size & in heart sister like me to gift my wedding dress to her since she is getting married in November (I'm only 136 & did not think I was actually fat at the time). I, shocked & embarrassed, tried to ask her what she means by that as polite as possible. My step
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    Font - mom responded with "Don't worry, it's just one of those sister teasings you have never been able to comprehend" & for us to all talk about it later. It was all too much for me and I was humiliated by everything & burst into tears in front of everyone & went to the bathroom while my stepmom said "See" & mocked me & telling me to grow up. They both did end up coming into the bathroom after 30 min.
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    Font - Lucy said I ruined the most exciting news of a lifetime but could not possibly understand that since me & my fiance want to continue a CF lifestyle. I asked her much more rudely why the h she thought I would be giving her my wedding dress. Apparently her & my stepmom had talked & decided that since my wedding was not until March, & since I am fatter than them, I would not mind just loaning my dress
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    Font - (that I have not even picked up yet from alterations) or buying another one since I had saved & invested with my "big degrees" into my wedding that I can afford special alterations. I double majored in aerospace engineering & theatre & my fiance majored into physics & philosophy. Thanks to my degree & skills, I designed my wedding dress. Both of them have always hated this. She
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    Font - also said that it's okay if it was not altered because I am so much bigger there would not be any alterations needed for her to fit my dress. I told her absolutely not. Lucy then said that if I don't give it to her then I am no longer a brides maid. I told her that's fine & left the bathroom. Everyone except my
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    Font - dad, Lucy's fiance, & my fiance left. They consoled me & said they would talk to my stepmom & sister about everything & I left. The next day, both my sister & my stepmom blew up my phone saying I am destroying the family & clearly don't care about my soon-to-be niece or nephew by not allowing my sister have my dress. I never
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    Font - responded & ended up getting a group of family & Lucy's friends on their side harassing me on social media, phone, email, & in person for a week. It only stopped because my BIL told Lucy he would be leaving her if she did not cut it out. Things have been quiet ever since then until tonight when I got a call from my sister saying she has a scheduled an abortion tomorrow for her baby girl since she can't fit into
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    Font - her dress. She then said that I could stop all of this if I just honored her simple request of giving her my dress. This is where I am for sure not just wrong but a major b... I don't care if a person gets a abortion or not. What you do with your body is up to you, & I don't blame anyone from getting one done. From experience, making that decision is one of the hardest thing to make in life. BUT... It
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    Font - did p me off & I told her that if she was aborting her baby over a dress then she does not deserve to have any children & her baby girl can be a gift from God to another person who will actually love her & not place fabric over her. She responded since I am CF I don't know what a good parent is, the length of a mothers love, or be able to provide that to kids & could never be better than her. I
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    Font - hung up on her & she sent me a text with a picture of documents showing when, where, & time of the appointment. The text said I had until 11:30am (the time of the appointment) to change my mind. I called her fiance & told him everything & sent him screenshots of the text she sent. He said she had no clue about the abortion or the gender of their baby & was going straight home to talk to
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    Font - her about it. They did get into a huge fight & now my BIL is staying in our guestroom for a while &, very understandingly, looks very red & swollen in the face from crying. None of can sleep now & can't While I questioned her moral choice to pick fabric over a baby, it's the same question I am asking myself. I feels
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    Font - extreme for me to be this protective over it & at the cost of a baby that is wanted, already loved by us, & can be given a great life with a great father. Am I the a ? I honestly am thinking about just giving in & giving her my dress. but I just have to get some outside views & input on this situation. Any thoughts would be very helpful & and thank you so much in advanced!
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    Font - Vvvvvhonestopinion 1 day ago NTA. Your stepsister is obviously unhinged and very, very manipulative. Choosing a dress over her unborn baby. If she decided to go through the abortion, it is up to her. Whatever her decision, I would consider NOT going to her wedding (if it is still on) and blocking her and her mom. Don't feel guilty. This is not your fault. 45.4K Reply Share
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    Font - No-Yogurtcloset-3187 OP 1 day ago I was not going after I was kicked from the wedding party. I 100% agree. It's crazy that she is even doing this. I am going NC after this is resolved. I am going to talk to my BIL in the morning and see what he would like to do and how he feels about everything. Reply Share 2.8k
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    Font - AIDS goddessofspite . 1 day ago NTA but you would be if you give her that dress. You think if you hand over the dress she will keep the kid and her and her partner can play happy families. But all you will be doing is setting a precedent. She will then start demanding other things. Give the mouse a cookie how long before it demands a glass of milk. Leeches like her will never stop. She will keep using that kid as a bargaining tool to get what she wants. Stand your ground. If she chooses t
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    Font - BlyssfulOblyvion - 1 day ago dear GODS this was atrocious. halfway through, it was obvious you're NTA. by the time i got to the abortion part....ma'am for your safety and sanity, you really, really, REALLY need to go full no contact with your sister. she is going to be, at BEST, an incredibly toxic influence on your life. at worst she is going to actively ruin your life. that attempt at manipulation was grade a narcissistic behavior, if not straight up psychopathic. please do whatever it
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    Font - AHOY Chipchop666 1 day ago . NTA. She is to selfish to raise a child. I'm actually wondering if her engagement is broken or on the way after BIL read those texts 674 Reply Share
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    Font - CrabbiestAsp 1 day ago NTA. I think everyone involved her has learnt how disgusting your sister is. She is the one ready to have an abortion because she didn't get the dress she wanted. This is 100% on her. 344 Reply Share No-Yogurtcloset-3187 OP 1 day ago . I agree. I can't help but wonder if our parents know. It's not my place to tell them but I can't help but wonder how my stepmom would feel about this. She berated me when I had one. Would she feel the same if my sister had one? That o
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